SELF CONFIDENCE X ANKA WOMAN WITHIN WORKSHOP

I' III Hey guys,

It’s the weekend again…. Yaaaayy

So last week I attended the Woman Within-Style and Confidence workshop organized by A.N.K.A.  This is actually the first event I will attend since I started blogging, it’s a start for me getting out of my comfort zone and meeting new people,

Phobias X HabitsX Obsessions

Hello guys! Been long you saw me *in Wande Coal's voice*

In order to serve you better, the blog had to undergo some maintenance  but we are back.....

So...... my beautiful portable Adeola of Portableisthenewhot tagged me on her post (you can view it here ) about phobias, habits and obsessions. I could totally relate to a lot of things that she talked about.

Lets just say this post is about getting to know my weird self a little. Shall we,...

CURIOUS CASE OF A WALLFLOWER

I had always tried to blend in

Lol ... I could have easily been mistaken as part of the interior décor

Shy, Introverted, Melancholic, Anti-social were the words that best described me

THE LIEBSTER AWARD

Hi Guys!!!  How's the weekend going? I hope it is going great tho.

First i would like to thank Adeola of portableisthenewhot.blogspot.com.ng for nominating me for the Liebster Award Yipeee yaaay!!!!



I guess you are wondering what this award is all bout. Well the Liebster award is a fun way to recognize and promote new up and coming blogs of a good standard and the rules are really simple. What you have to do is...
~ Thank the blogger who nominated you for the Liebster award
~ Display the Liebster badge in your site
~ Answer the questions you were sent
~ Choose 5 (to 11) blogs to nominate
~ Send 10 questions for your nominees to answer.

So i will be answering the question Deola sent me.

LOVE, EMOTIONS AND PUNCHES……

Ok Guys! Calm down and please don’t go about punching. This is not in any way to suggest that punching a girl is not an abuse. Gender bias? Ok – babes be mindful too. Even our subtly hitting of a guy’s chest when we are in love and they just won’t get it might just be termed as an abuse.  Well I don’t want to exaggerate but abuse has been fantastically and corruptibly justified these days. She hit me first he said – Charlatan!

Abuse is abuse and there is the general perception that a man or woman have to hit you for it to be termed abuse. Someone said in his phony yankee accent ‘I hit her yea but errrm erm I didn’t do any damage to her body – I couldn’t close my mouth but I managed to murmured his deserved comments  in my native language ‘Oloshi, Oloriburuku”. Well it has to be inaudible and in my native language. It is being cerebral. I can’t afford any damage to my fine face

Get it - if you ever thought to hit or have attempted to hit, before you came to your senses or your senses came to you. You need help and urgently. And if you are the victim or the potential victim, start running. Please run like ‘kunta kinte’ in Roots. Ok he was caught. Please run like Forrest Grump.

So I saw this statistics one of those days I was carelessly going through random stuff. A university don did a research on 1.5m people that was abused and he said 96% of those cases were emotionally abused and only 4% have been physically abused. It immediately dawn on me. So does that mean Titi, Chika, Tola, Hauwa, Ayo and even I have been abused emotionally????

We all know about domestic abuse, rape and all other forms of physical abuse. It’s quite appalling that a lot of these cases seem to be coming up these days with even gory details that send shivers down your spine.

In all this there is a worse form of abuse going around today and if not curbed, could be more dangerous than physical abuse.  Emotional Abuse!!!!!!!

Where Has The Spirit of Gratitude Gone??????

gratitude

ˈɡratɪtjuːd/

noun

1. the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

   
   

" I stare out the car window and i see him with the blank expression on his face. 

He couldn't believe his luck. 

He worked from dawn to dusk and nothing exciting hardly happened.

Until today.....

He stared  at the 1000 naira note in his hand,

like it was gold.

He asked the man in the Range Rover, what have i done to deserve this,

I only cleaned the windshield of your car.

The man looks at him, collects the 1000 naira note back and brings out a wad of 1000 naira notes, hands it over the young guy.

That was it! he lay flat on his belly on the busy tar road just to show gratitude.

Just one statement caught my attention; No one has ever done this for me; what have I done to deserve this .

He moves to a secluded corner, goes on his knees, shedding tears of joy, praying and thanking God".

PERFECT IMPERFECTION

HI!!!!

I know i have been MIA for a while but i promise from now on to be consistent with my posts.

This is something i wrote a while back and i just decided to share it again.
Enjoy.....

"She stares at the reflection in the mirror, and all she sees are physical imperfections i.e large ears like jumbo the elephant, large nose etc. She doesn’t feel good enough for anyone not even herself. All walls of self worth, self esteem, self confidence broken down by negative comments and downsizing attitudes from people around".