Friday 24 June 2016

LOVE, EMOTIONS AND PUNCHES……


Ok Guys! Calm down and please don’t go about punching. This is not in any way to suggest that punching a girl is not an abuse. Gender bias? Ok – babes be mindful too. Even our subtly hitting of a guy’s chest when we are in love and they just won’t get it might just be termed as an abuse.  Well I don’t want to exaggerate but abuse has been fantastically and corruptibly justified these days. She hit me first he said – Charlatan!

Abuse is abuse and there is the general perception that a man or woman have to hit you for it to be termed abuse. Someone said in his phony yankee accent ‘I hit her yea but errrm erm I didn’t do any damage to her body – I couldn’t close my mouth but I managed to murmured his deserved comments  in my native language ‘Oloshi, Oloriburuku”. Well it has to be inaudible and in my native language. It is being cerebral. I can’t afford any damage to my fine face

Get it - if you ever thought to hit or have attempted to hit, before you came to your senses or your senses came to you. You need help and urgently. And if you are the victim or the potential victim, start running. Please run like ‘kunta kinte’ in Roots. Ok he was caught. Please run like Forrest Grump.

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So I saw this statistics one of those days I was carelessly going through random stuff. A university don did a research on 1.5m people that was abused and he said 96% of those cases were emotionally abused and only 4% have been physically abused. It immediately dawn on me. So does that mean Titi, Chika, Tola, Hauwa, Ayo and even I have been abused emotionally????

We all know about domestic abuse, rape and all other forms of physical abuse. It’s quite appalling that a lot of these cases seem to be coming up these days with even gory details that send shivers down your spine.



In all this there is a worse form of abuse going around today and if not curbed, could be more dangerous than physical abuse.  Emotional Abuse!!!!!!!

Sunday 19 June 2016

Where Has The Spirit of Gratitude Gone??????


gratitude
ˈɡratɪtjuːd/
noun
  1. the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.


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" I stare out the car window and i see him with the blank expression on his face. 
He couldn't believe his luck. 
He worked from dawn to dusk and nothing exciting hardly happened.
Until today.....

He stared  at the 1000 naira note in his hand,
like it was gold.
He asked the man in the Range Rover, what have i done to deserve this,
I only cleaned the windshield of your car.

The man looks at him, collects the 1000 naira note back and brings out a wad of 1000 naira notes, hands it over the young guy.
That was it! he lay flat on his belly on the busy tar road just to show gratitude.

Just one statement caught my attention; No one has ever done this for me; what have I done to deserve this .

He moves to a secluded corner, goes on his knees, shedding tears of joy, praying and thanking God".


Wednesday 1 June 2016

PERFECT IMPERFECTION



HI!!!!

I know i have been MIA for a while but i promise from now on to be consistent with my posts.

This is something i wrote a while back and i just decided to share it again.
Enjoy.....

"She stares at the reflection in the mirror, and all she sees are physical imperfections i.e large ears like jumbo the elephant, large nose etc. She doesn’t feel good enough for anyone not even herself. All walls of self worth, self esteem, self confidence broken down by negative comments and downsizing attitudes from people around".